Unfriended
To my former childhood friend … and to all would be friends, virtual and otherwise.
I have a rule in my life, one that I pretty much stick too.
It’s the 3 strikes you are out rule. Some have called it the no asshole rule.
When Facebook became popular I joined in. First because I was curious and second to find old friends from my early life.
One by one I friended those with whom I had memories and history.
Sometimes I would friend a stranger who had similar thoughts and ideas, those strangers became my friends.
A few years ago I got a request to friend an old acquaintance, I accepted. Almost at once this “old friend” began shooting insults and barbs. I tried to ignore but his words were hurtful. I unfriended him. Again came the request to be a Facebook friend, once again I accepted. I hopped for better. Wrong, soon came the same hurtful words so I unfriended him again. When the third request came with promises to do better, I decided I would friend him but monitor him closely. Unfortunately he followed the same negative pattern. Hence the 3 strike rule became my motto for the future.
Several “friends and relatives” have been unfriended by my 3 strike rule. It’s my way of protecting myself from unwanted negative energy.
I have wondered about my friend at times. I heard him describe how he lost his virginity in a darkened party bedroom waiting his “turn.” I watched how he partied with the wild bunch on Center street. I watched him find and marry a sweetheart of a girl who helped him to see better things in life. He “got” religion and followed a very different path. I met up with him 20 years later in the small town of Snowflake. He had changed, I had changed. I could tell he was troubled by my “story.”
I grew up in mainstream Provo and followed the straight and narrow. For 20 years I was the ultimate follower of the Church, and then I had an epiphany.
I became a free agent, I sought after the mysteries of life and followed my heart.
I don’t like judgmental people, I do my best to avoid any judgements. My life path has taught me that what I put out, I get back.
I have unfriended many “friends” over the years that have been a part of my Facebook experience. It is my way of protecting my self from the negative people. They may be good people, but they choose to see the bad in life.
There is plenty of bad around, but there is plenty of good too. And that is what I choose to see. The PollyAnna way.
Some may say It is too simplistic.
Recent scientific studies have shown that thought can change our very DNA.
Thoughts are powerful and where our attention goes, energy flows.
We are each powerful transmitters of energy. Others can feel and sense our moods and we can feel the moods and energy of others.
Be careful of the signals that you send out, the Universe is listening and will respond with like energy.
Be mind full of the programs you watch and the people that you associate with, you are constantly being shaped by those you follow.
To my “old friend,’ I can no longer trust you or your intentions. You have met my 3 strike, no asshole rule and you are out.
Still, I send you best wishes and hope you find happiness in life.
